Blending In
The blade of grass that grows tallest is the first to be cut down.
The nail that sticks out furthest is the first to be hammered in.
The squeaky wheel gets the oil.
If you stand out, you receive attention. If you receive attention, you are changed by it. Others change you.
If you want to find out who you are, by yourself and on your own, it helps to blend in and go unnoticed. This is not to say that you need to do it, or that it's better. Many go through life without developing a strong sense of self or inner life.
It's perfectly valid to be someone who is largely a product of their surroundings — we all are, to some extent, after all. But some more than others.
If you go unnoticed by others, you have some mental space to develop yourself. If you are constantly showered with attention, your self may be diluted by the deluge.
Some don't spend much time looking into mirrors. They probably don't present themselves as well as they could. They maintain a certain amount of ignorance. But are there advantages, too?
If you are primarily one sort, perhaps try being the other. Don't limit yourself to what is comfortable, familiar, or easy. Be vast.